It was difficult to convince my Mom to have someone give her a hand after my Dad died. I remember making an appoint with a care provider, only to arrive at my Mother’s home and find Mom had already flatly stated, “I’m just not in need of this kind of help.”
It took more than a year and a serious illness before she felt ready – and her quality of life would have been much improved had she been able to recast the help as maintaining her in a least restrictive environment rather than viewing it as a loss of freedom.
One of the most difficult things to do is finding the path to early, proactive help for an elder. Add to this the challenge of locating a facility that’s just right and you’ve got a tough situation.
This piece in the New York Times on the shifts in elders’ lives tells the tale: even after downsizing to assisted living, multiple moves can be necessary.
Continuity of care – medical, social, cultural – must be well-planned, with a safety net in place to make sure success occurs.