It was difficult to convince my Mom to have someone give her a hand after my Dad died. I remember making an appoint with a care provider, only to arrive at my Mother’s home and find Mom had already flatly stated, “I’m just not in need of this kind of help.”
It took more than a year and a serious illness before she felt ready – and her quality of life would have been much improved had she been able to recast the help as maintaining her in a least restrictive environment rather than viewing it as a loss of freedom.
One of the most difficult things to do is finding the path to early, proactive help for an elder. Add to this the challenge of locating a facility that’s just right and you’ve got a tough situation.
This piece in the New York Times on the shifts in elders’ lives tells the tale: even after downsizing to assisted living, multiple moves can be necessary.
Continuity of care – medical, social, cultural – must be well-planned, with a safety net in place to make sure success occurs.
of Brian J. Matis
When an elderly woman has a relative or someone else living with her who keeps others away, controls where she goes, and what she does, that individual may be said to be exerting ‘undue influence.’
What this means in practical terms is that the person may be trying to take advantage, for personal or financial gain.
We’re seeing this type of thing happen more frequently with the bad economy. It can occur with caregivers who see an opportunity. Or with an adult child down on their luck who doesn’t think twice about helping himself to Mom’s pocketbook.
If you see this kind of situation, it merits some investigation. Contact your local police if you believe an elder is at risk.
What happens when older people work? Good things, says a report from Boston University’s Sloan Center on Aging and Work.
According to the Department of Labor, we’re in the middle of a workforce shift that will see workers over 55 increase by more than 35%. That means increased fulfullment for elders who like the idea of a retirement job – or who don’t see themselves as retired but moving on to new work.
Richard Johnson, a senior fellow at the Urban Institute, says that 25% of workers over 50 will change not just jobs – they’ll change occupations. And Johnson states, “Workers who change jobs at older ages say they are more likely to enjoy the new job than the old job.” How much more likely? Workers over 65 report a 90% job enjoyment rating – much higher than that of younger workers.
NYT’s New Old Age blog has the entire piece on older workers in the workforce – and the benefits go way beyond a paycheck.
Medicaid provides care for elders with a catch. Their primary residence is exempt, but states impose specific rules and dollar amounts as they wish.
This is why I frequently tell clients it’s smart to gain clarity from their estate planning or elder law attorney. In this type of situation, an ounce of prevention is truly preferable to a pound of cure.
State laws differ, so check to see what applies where your parent or grandparent lives, but Craig Reaves has several interesting things to say about managing a primary residence when an elder is on Medicaid. Planning ahead may help avoid a lien on the home after an elder passes, but keep in mind there are many restrictions and rules.
Read the entire New York Times blog post by elder law attorney Craig Reaves.
South Korea is marshalling an army.
No, not to fight North Korea’s latest incursion. This is the country’s ‘War on Dementia’ and they’re enlisting the help of school children to build a younger generation that is aware of what it’s like to be elderly and battle Alzheimer’s.
Strapped into suits that restrict their range of motion and vision, the children move through a series of exercises that help them learn compassion and provide a practical understanding of the limitations some elders face.
South Korea has one of the most rapidly aging populations of any nation. The government is encouraging early diagnosis of dementia and working to combat the shame and fear that are often attached to aging in general and Alzheimer’s in particular.
Read the full New York Times article here.
More on this in The New Old Age blog in the NYT.
The D.E.A. is enforcing a law designed to prevent drug abuse by requiring that skilled nursing facilities (SNF) wait for a physician’s signed prescription before providing patients with pain control medicines such as Vicodin, Percocet or morphine.
This leaves our vulnerable elderly population in a difficult situation that is also uncomfortable for the SNF nursing staff.
Here are three suggestions for families:
Determine what the doctor has prescribed and make sure the prescription is sent to the SNF ahead of need. If the patient receives prescriptions on Monday that will cover the week, see if the physician can write two. Provide the second to the director of nurses.
2. Hand carry
Anyone with a relative or friend in a nursing home or convalescent hospital knows that the best possible care is obtained by showing up. Being present for daily or several times weekly visits at random increases the amount of attention staff pays to your patient.
Ask the physician if you can hand carry the prescription to the SNF. Make it part of your visit routine.
3. Standing orders
Ask the physician if the prescription plus amended standing orders to provide more discretion to the attending nurses will help the patient receive pain medication faster while complying with the rules. Keep in mind that doctors see patients in a SNF far less frequently than if the same patient were in a hospital.
Above all, ask questions and find a solution that will work for the patient. Read the New York Times piece on the enforcement of DEA rules.
As revealed by this New York Times story, men are stepping up and taking on caregiving responsibilities for aging parents and family members.
Sometimes leaving jobs, other times accompanying parents to medical appointments, men are now being seen taking on the role as caregiver.
How pervasive is this trend? “The Alzheimer’s Association and the National Alliance for Caregiving estimate that men make up nearly 40 percent of family care providers now, up from 19 percent in a 1996 study by the Alzheimer’s Association. About 17 million men are caring for an adult.”
This is a powerful change – caring men can make a huge difference in the the lives of their loved ones. It’s a big job, and the men who do this work are courageous.
Read the entire New York Times story here.
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